94: You Can’t Hype Your Way Into Confidence

If one more post tells you to “power pose your way to confidence,” here’s the truth — confidence isn’t a mood you hype. It’s a body state you regulate and a skill you earn. 

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If one more post tells you to “power pose your way to confidence,” here’s the truth — confidence isn’t a mood you hype. It’s a body state you regulate and a skill you earn. 

In this episode, Jacqueline breaks down why adrenaline, not “mindset,” is driving your shaky hands and blank brain, how to physically discharge it fast, and how to build unshakeable stage presence the grown-up way: through reps, deliberate micro-stress, and a stack of proof points tall enough to survive the occasional Jenga pull. 

We’ll separate self belief from self trust, retire vague affirmations, and build a system that makes you safe, steady, and bookable.

The truth about building unshakable stage confidence — it’s one rep, one proof point, one deliberate step at a time.

Inside, you’ll learn:

• The confidence hype myth and what actually creates stage steadiness (00:00)
• A pre-talk protocol that physically burns off adrenaline in under 10–15 minutes (03:10)
• How to regulate your nervous system with the practical “wall push-up” method (06:38)
• Stacking proof points from small, controlled reps so your confidence grows like compounding interest, not like a sugar rush (10:55)
• Building self trust to match your self belief (12:44)
• Replacing affirmations with evidence for real confidence (13:46)
• Why “hyping” doesn’t work and what professionals actually do instead (15:33)
• Climbing the ladder (and not diving into the deep end) by building deliberate, sustainable confidence (17:39)

You don’t need louder hype. You need a calmer body and a stack of proof. 

Start small, rack up wins, and climb the ladder on purpose. That’s how you become the speaker people trust to deliver — every single time.

QUOTES

“You can’t willpower your way to confidence, and you can’t manifest being confident. Confidence comes from doing the reps, and evidence stacking.” – Jacqueline Brooker 

“If your nervous system is geared to respond adversely to speaking up and speaking out, you will never win the mindset game. You actually have to work on nervous system regulation.” – Jacqueline Brooker

“Self trust is knowing that no matter what happens, you’ll be able to pick yourself up again. Self trust is knowing that you have your own back. And if your self trust is not at the same level as your self belief, it doesn’t matter what you do, you’re not going to make it.” – Jacqueline Brooker

“Professional confidence is deliberately engineered. You cannot think your way into it. You earn it, step by step, rep by rep” – Jacqueline Brooker

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